We’re all storytellers. And many of the stories we tell are about ourselves. As Tony Robbins points out, those stories can empower us, or disempower us. Often, our stories have no basis in reality. “Most people are stuck because of the story that they told themselves years ago, instead of allowing their story to evolve” (as summarised by Oprah Winfrey in a conversation with Robbins).
I saw an eye-opening demonstration of this idea with Iyanla Vanzant (see the clip below). Iyanla’s simple sentence-starter that helped a woman realise the bogus story she had been telling herself for years was: “The story I tell myself about myself is…”
Update [August 8]: reflecting on Robbins’ quote, I think a better way to phrase this idea might be: we define ourselves by the stories we tell ourselves, especially about ourselves. So, we can choose not to define ourselves by not telling ourselves particular stories (about ourselves).